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May 15, 2008


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my god's name is howard. howard johnson:


having gone through the worse-than-we-thought cancer thing recently, our thoughts are with you and the wife, and her whole family.

Rachel E.

Pierre, you know how much I feel your pain. I'm so sorry that things are so tough. Sad news. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.


When my son was six years old, he had the responsibility of cleaning up after communion at our church. While cleaning up the cups and the wafers, he said, "Dad, that blood of Jesus smells just like grape juice."


You and your family are in my thoughts.

Good thing that you already know that laughter is the best medicine. (unless you are recovering from abdominal surgery)


we'll be here if/when you need us...

take care


Isn't "Howard" what the "H" stands for when people shout "Jesus H Christ!" ?

Pretty amazing how your sense of humor is holding up, all things considered.


As always, let me know if there's anything I can do to help.


Just another shining example of why nothing lightens up life's dark moments like a child. God bless, MD!


Love to you and your family. Hoping that there are some moments of peace on the long road ahead. Having been through the cancer thing, my heart just aches for all of you.


I'll keep praying for peace and comfort for your father in law and your entire family.


Both you and your daughter crack me up, MD. I guess you're right. The acorn doesn't fall far from the tree.

I'll keep BossLady's father in my prayers. Stay strong!


This is a great story. I'm sorry for what you are going through.


Hugs, prayers and white light to the Metro Family...


Your sense of humor and your ability to see the lighter side of life will be of great benefit to everyone as you all face this terrible time together. Never underestimate the healing power of laughter!


MD, your ability of find humor and make others laugh is a unique talent and special gift. Share it often, hold your family tight, and treasure the moments of laugher amid the sadness and grief.


peanut's reactione to the praying people cracked me up. even church kids do crazy stuff like that. when my sister was 5, she was brought before the church to talk about what they were learning in sunday school. the pastor asked her what temptation was, and without missing a beat, responded "guys who sing old songs!!". lol!
we still laugh about that.



When we took A. to his great-grandmother's funeral, they rang the bells and he yelled out, "Telephone!"

So sorry about your father-in-law.


Will keep your fam & clan in my thoughts & prayers.

If anyone has a sec, give one up for Fatty & his fam, too.



our thoughts & prayers with you and you family as well. i love the attempt to pry open the eyes...


Although this is a horrible situation to deal with, I know your family will get through it with grace, humor and love. 'Cause that's how MetroDad rolls, yo.


I'm not a big group prayer. It sort of offends my sensibilities - especially when it's one of those awful and empty chant prayers. On the rare event that I am dragged to church I never participate in those things. Luckily, most people don't notice, and if they do, they are just as guilty. Now though, with a 5 year-old and a 3-year old, I get ratted on - often loudly, right there in the moment. I've decided to just let my wife expose the kids to the hocus-pocus and I can talk to them about deeper things.

I'm so sorry for the pain you and the people you love are facing. A kind, gentle, and iconoclastic sense of humor such as yours is, for me, a huge blessing in such situations. The most meaningful funerals and bed-side trauma's I've been involved with have all featured humor. I know it's trite, but I hope you can all laugh through the tears.


Jozet at Halushki

Peanut is a hoot.

And I'd say that an injection of humor is a spiritual medicine of its own kind. If God does exist, maybe he's such a curmudgeon because more kids aren't wandering around being their silly selves.


howard is awesome. I love the peanut's affect on people. I'm sure your mother-in-law needed that laugh.

Take care - wishing everything strength and love.

Lisa K.

I love hearing the stories of you as a young child. It's easy to see where Peanut gets her sense of humor. Prayers and hugs to all of you.

insane mama

Wishing you happy thoughts! Just be happy that you don't have a teenager, trust me on that!

alice, uptown

You and the Peanut? Apple and tree sound familiar?

I would assume she gets her sense of life from BL as well -- and I'm sorry to hear about BL's father.

with love


Sorry about your FIL... it kind sucks when the act of religion overshadows the intent... it's Ok, cause Howard gets a big chuckle out of us too...


You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers for what its worth. Take care and don't worry - we'll be here when you're ready to come back!


Peanut is gifted, she really is. Happy thoughts to you and your family during this time :/


I'm glad you have Peanut to help lighten the load emotionally a little. Nothing like a little person to remind you of the joys remaining.


I'm sending you good thoughts, Pierre, and hoping that things turn out well for you and your family.


I'm sending you good thoughts, Pierre, and hoping that things turn out well for you and your family.


Here's my take on the subject-- in case you need some light, fun reading...



I'm sure your amazing sense of humor and perspective on life will be of great benefit to your FIL during these difficult times. My thought and prayers are with all of you.

Chief Family Officer

Yikes! I feel the same way, and rarely go to church. I'd like to go more but it wouldn't be a family thing since my hubby wouldn't go, so it's kind of awkward. I am planning to go more when the kids are older ... but by then, I imagine, we'll be having scenes like yours. I never thought about that until I read your post!

Again, I'm so very sorry about the whole situation. Your family is in my prayers.


Great story, MD. Just proves that you were funny even when you were a little kid. In our family, church has provided many tales of entertainment. Our favorite was when my younger brother (at the age of 6) was caught taking money from the collection plate!

Wishing all the best to BL's dad and the entire family.

Mama Nabi

Hey, Howard sounds just about right... thinking of you guys, especially BossLady. Ah, sweet Peanut - bringing her own trademark sunshine to every situation.
Hugs to you all... if there's anything I can do, holler.


I'm sorry for what you're going through. I've been there, before my daughter was born, in some ways I'm glad about that, in other ways it's tragic.

We too, have failed our daughter's religious education - last Christmas, confused by the Mr Man Mr Christmas candles I bought, my daughter announced that Christmas was Santa Clause's birthday.




I have just finished reading your entire blog, each and every entry, over the past month. I feel like I have grown to know you on a very strange personal level. Saying that I would like to say that I will keep your family in my thoughts.

One of my cousins have a brain tumor and the hardest thing is to think that one day she won't be here. What does help with the pain is being with them. Hospitals are hard places for everyone. Just imagine how much harder it is to be in the bed. Keeping a smile on your face is the best medicine that can be given. Your daughter, I'm sure, is bringing the best gift that anyone could give, happiness.

Sending good mojo your way...



Funny stuff dude! I too am spiritual but not religious. Sometimes I wonder if I'm raising my children to be agnostic or atheist since we hardly go to church.

holy moses

Had to laugh at your stories, MD. Last week, my 9-year-old son asked me why we never go to church. I told him if he wanted to try and see what church was like, I would take him. He agreed and said, "Ok. Let's go this Sunday."

Only problem is I have no idea where the nearest church is. I don't even know what denomination I might be. Maybe I'll just take him to the synagogue down the street and tell him that's church!


Temporarily suspending my lurker tendencies to say that though there's no easy way about this difficult situation, I trust that you can take strength from humour, love and children's hope. Take care, and big hugs to Peanut.

Mama Nabi

I've been thinking about you guys, esp BossLady...

Ah, yes, Howard... I think I knew him once.

I am glad that Peanut is there to brighten everyone's day during these hard painful times. Please, if there's anything I can do, holler...


I found the stories of you as a young child to be very entertaining. our thoughts and prays are with you and your family.



My father just passed away on Thursday from cancer, and for some bizarre reason, I found myself later that day thinking of you. You post all this stuff out there on the Internet, and I can't even get myself to tell my closest friends. what are they going to say, "i'm sorry"? well, yes, and much to my surprise, it was therapeutic to talk about it. i didn't take their phone calls as I didn't want to cry on the phone (or at work), but later reading their e-mails helped me.

the only advice i can give you is pretty obvious: have as much of a good time with your FIL as possible. Our whole family flew out to California a couple of weeks ago and had a very special weekend. We didn't think it would be the last, but thinking about it now, I don't mind that it was. We had THAT MUCH FUN! As did he.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Geoff in Boston


I hate cancer with a passion. I lost both parents to it over the past 3 years. It's hard as hell on everyone. I'm glad to hear that you'll be visiting your FIL as much as you can. Both my parents took great joy towards the end of their lives in seeing my daughter as much as possible. In some ways, I think being around such a young presence helped prepare them for the fact that their time on the planet was dwindling. It was a blessing for us all.

Thoughts and prayers are with you all. In Howard may we trust.


I am praying for you and your family as well. I have been through the cancer in my family way too many times, and it is not easy. But you have many many who are lifting you up in prayer.


A few months back it came to light that Noodle (who is now 6) thought that Jesus was a Disney Princess.

My mother collects those Lenox porcelain fairytale princesses that you used to be able to order from the back of the magazine in the Sunday paper, and displays them in a curio cabinet in her living room. She also somehow stuck a porcelain Virgin Mary holding Baby Jesus in there.

Somehow, Noodle got the impression that Mary was Jesus, and that since she was in with the princesses, that she must be one, too. I only figured it out because she'd heard kids at school talking about Jesus (I'm an atheist/Buddhist/pagan-y type, so there's no mention of Jesus at home), and told them that next time she went to Disney World she was going to get her picture taken with her.

Never a dull moment around here, lol.

Sara in SD

Thinking of you and BossLady and Peanut. So sorry for what you are facing.


MD - sorry to hear you FIL's condition is not improving. We send our deepest thoughts and prayers to you and the family. We know this is a hard time for you and hope that the Peanut, and other small wonders of this universe, continue to bring light into your days.

God, Howard, the Universe, Haley's comet, Tom Cruise . . . may they all keep you well.

Oh, and if you haven't read Christopher Moore's "Lamb", you should. It's a quick read and hysterical. It's all about Jesus as a boy and his journeys with his best friend Biff.

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