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November 19, 2004


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Dead on exactly how I feel.

Plus...what's the fun of parenting if you can't eventually look forward to seeing your kids struggle with the "I hope you have a child just like you!!" curse?

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I remember how I felt for the first couple of days after I had both of my kids...it was hard enough to deal with at the rip old age of 20 and 23...I can't imagine trying to recover AND take care of TWO newborns at the age of 57. There's a reason that a woman's body natrually stops allowing her to get pregnant at a certain point. This is one instance where infertility specialists aren't such a good thing.


I dunno, as someone who had an 'oops' after I was already a grandma, I guess I think a little differently about this.

Yes, having a child this late in life is unusual these days. Certainly it's extremely unusual to have a child at 57 and always has been.

But 50 isn't as old today as it once was, and lots of older women have always had babies. Granted, they were usually #12 or 13 not numbers one and two, but we've always ahd older mothers. Both of my grandmothers had very late life babies, and a friend of the family was born to a Dad who was his mothers oldest child of four -- he was born in 1919 when she was 45.

Yes, she's going to be OLD when her babies graduate from high school. But if her experience of having a late life baby is anything like mine has been, she'll be a far better Mamma now than she was at 20 and her children will have a different set of advanatges than the kids of a 20 year old, but there will be advanatges.

I am able to chase Jack around for hours, and now I have the patience to do so without getting frustrated with having to put off what I'd like to be doing. I am all finished growing up. Quite simply, when I had my first kids in my 20s, I wasn't. I was an adult, yes. And I did what was best for my kids to the best of my ability -- but I sometimes did it a little grudgingly, wondering when there would be time for me. These days, with Jack, I am able to completely engage in his world for far longer at a time, and with far greater joy. I am also able to juggle having a baby and having a life with far more grace than I was able to manage at 20.

But I have to admit that I may not live to see Jack's children. He will have to cope far earlier with losing his parents. Yeah, there are disadvantages.

Just wanted to point out that it's not all disadvantages. ;)

(Oh, and did you know that for women who have a baby after age 40, the odds of living to be over 100 increase by 90%? I'll have to go find out where I read that when I was pregnant. I thought it was funny.)


I'm a father of twins (read my LJ for details) and I can't comprehend taking care of twins at that age. Leave alone a woman pregnant with them. At 31 my wife had a hellish time of the pregnancy, and at 57 I have to wonder how that woman even lived through it.

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