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The Juggle: Parent Hacks for the Inherently Lazy

The creative well runneth dry these days, my friends.

All my free time is being spent wrapping up the year at work, attending a flurry of holiday parties, updating my facebook status, and figuring out what books to give my family as presents. I've also been spending a lot of time trying to figure out how much I need to tip everyone for the holidays. How much does one give to the newspaper delivery guy?  Do I really need to tip every single garage attendant?  Most importantly, what's the policy on holiday gifts to teachers at daycare?

Speaking of not having a lot of free time, I've been getting a lot of e-mails from readers lately asking me how I manage my time. Most of the e-mails come from single people, married couples without kids, or expectant parents. They all want to know how I can spend so much time with the Peanut yet still have a life.

I'll tell you the same thing I always tell them. How do I do it? Easy. Crystal meth and scotch! Yee haw!

Actually, as any parent will tell you, it's damn tough balancing out everything in life once you have kids. Trying to find the time to fit everything in can get downright exhausting. See, my friends, until you have a kid, you never quite realize how much free time you had. In fact, you never even realize how many hours there even are in a day.

Nothing quite crystallizes that fact like the weekends.

Remember those Sunday mornings when you used to sleep in until noon, drink some coffee in bed, do the crossword, turn on the latest Radiohead CD, and then go back to sleep for an afternoon nap? Well, once you have a kid, that shit is all over.

As the old joke goes, God might have rested on the seventh day, but that's only because he sent his son to live with another family!

Once you have a kid, weekend mornings are spent waking up at the crack of dawn because your kid is licking your face, sticking a finger up your nostril, and demanding that you watch "Happy Feet" for the 8 millionth time.

It's actually amazing how much time you have in a day when you're forced to get up so early. However, it's not just the extra hours in the day that help you find time to do things. You'll find that having a kid forces you to have better discipline with your free time. That makes all the difference in the world.

I've also come to learn that in my quest to best utilize my free time, I've invented my own set of time-saving parent hacks. I'm sure every parent has their own set of "shortcuts." Here are just a few of mine:

  • Instead of bathing the Peanut every evening, I sometimes just wash her with a bunch of wipes. I'm embarrassed to admit that, more than once, I've had her just stand in the bathtub while I hosed her down.
  • Since she hates putting pajamas on to go to bed AND she hates getting dressed early in the morning, I'll sometimes put tomorrow's clothes on her before she goes to sleep at night. Once she wakes up, she's good to go. Two rocks, one stone!
  • Eating dinner with a three-year-old can often take HOURS. Want to move the process along? Promise her some ice cream if she eats quickly. When said ice cream fails to materialize, feign shock and indignation. Instigate serious investigation with daughter as to who could have stolen all the ice cream from the house!

I'll admit it. Sometimes I feel a little guilty for being lazy about certain aspects of parenting. On the other hand, I like to think hacks like this free up space for more quality time.

How about you guys? Any time-saving tips you'd like to share? Got any that you're too embarrassed to submit to parenthacks.com? Here's the place to share them. No shame or judgment on this site. No sirree, Bob!

Next post:  The infamous annual Santa photo. We weren't going to even go this year because of last year and the year before! However, so many of you have e-mailed me about it, we're going to give it the old college try. Wish us luck!

Shopocalypse Now! What IS Christmas?

I WILL GLADLY PAY YOU TUESDAY FOR A HAMBURGER TODAY!

Because my job in the fashion industry involves designing and producing apparel for many U.S. retailers and national brands, I'm always attuned to the economic variables that may affect the retail market.

This week, I read two pieces of information that shocked the shit out of me. First, according to the latest Gallup Poll, Americans expect to spend about $900 on holiday gifts this season. In fact, one-third of adults plan to spend more than $1,000.

At the same time, more Americans will go into debt this year to foot their holiday bills. About 30 percent will pay off their bills within three months. But another 25 percent will take 12 months to pay those bills. Furthermore, the latest reports indicate that the average American has $15,000 of credit card debt!

Now, is it just me or does it seem that our nation's shopping obsession is rapidly filling our homes with a random array of useless shit that will quickly be relegated to our ever-growing basements and landfills? Who really needs all this shit? And why do we feel compelled to constantly buy more of it?

The other day, I was sitting on the toilet, flipping through a few of the 8,000 catalogs that we've received in the mail lately when I realized that there are complete stores filled entirely with useless crap. Does anyone ever really flip through a Hammacher Schlemmer catalog and think to themselves, "You know what would make my life complete? An upside-down tomato garden and a voice-activated R2-D2. Fuck yeah!"

Are there really people out there who pick up a Hickory Farms catalog and think, "Damn, I'll bet Aunt Jess would love this gouda wheel. It's perfect for her. Only $200!"

This is the crap for which we're going into debt?

Look, I get that the desire to collect the most nuts is hard-wired into our inner squirrel. The blindly acquisitive nature of the American consumer probably has its origins in the fact that ours is a country that was founded on debt. Right off the bat, we got ourselves into hock to pay for the Revolutionary War.

However, it never ceases to amaze me that, in the face of supposed political turmoil and worldwide market upheavals, what do an increasing number of us do to assuage our fiscal anxiety?  We go out and spend more money---money that we don't even have!

Personally, I'm very fortunate. I have the money to pay off my credit cards at the end of each month---but I choose not to. Why?  Because, as Dennis MIller once said, if a killer asteroid obliterates the earth, causing tidal waves and cosmic fires that destroy every trace of life on this planet as we know it, and I still owe three grand on my Visa, I win.

But honestly, is it just me or is this holiday shopping bonanza getting more and more out of control every year?


MERRY BIRTHDAY HAPPY CHRISTMAS!

As I alluded in my last post, BossLady and I have been struggling over how to explain Christmas to the Peanut.

Sadly, my beautiful wife and I are wholly unqualified to have this conversation with a toddler. Being completely immature ourselves, we often celebrate Christmas by singing "Happy birthday, Baby Jesus!" all day long and baking God's only son a special cake heavily doused with rum.

Ideally, I'd like to deemphasize both the commercial and religious aspects of Christmas. Although I struggle with my own faith, I think it's important to try and frame Christmas in terms of the Nativity and the day that Jesus was born. However, at the age of three, the only Jesus whom the Peanut knows is the parking garage attendant down the block. Things could get a little confusing.

If possible, I'd also like to forgo any discussions about Santa. The Peanut is only three-years-old and, as my friend Mimi Smartypants once brilliantly put it, she does not yet need to be concerned about omnipotent mythical father figures making value judgments about her behavior.

So to sum up. No Santa. No religion. And no presents. What's fucking left?

Essentially, I'd like to convey to her that the true spirit of Christmas is love, peace, and good will towards men.

Anyone know how to explain all that to a toddler?

I'm thinking of doing a demonstration with some sock puppets. Or maybe I can find an "Elmo Loves Christmas" DVD. I hate that little red furry bastard but we always find ourselves turning to him to do the real heavy parenting work. Or maybe there's something on youtube?

Anyone got any good ideas?  Help a brother out.