Many people have commented on the fact that they enjoy reading about how much I love my wife and, of course, that's absolutely true. I love her more than anyone on this entire planet and she really is the ying to my yang.
However, that's not to say that BossLady and I never fight. Have you ever met a couple who doesn't argue or get into disagreements? I just choose not to write about our squabbles on this site. Personally, I don't feel right about airing our dirty laundry and I don't think this would be a healthy forum for me to vent about the BossLady when we have our little tiffs.
Liz and I were talking about this over drinks recently. We were discussing how hearing bloggers talk shit about their spouses or air their dirty laundry made us both feel a little uncomfortable. Although we don't make judgments about people who do so, we both talked about how we personally couldn't do that. However, at the same time, we hoped that this didn't give people the impression that our relationships with our spouses were absolutely perfect.
Because anyone who thinks their relationship with their spouse is absolutely perfect is either kidding themselves or has been drinking Kool-Aid with the Reverend Star Jones.
Personally, I've always thought that a great marriage is like a duck. On the surface, it looks cool and effortless, but underneath, everybody's paddling like hell.
It's funny. Sometimes when BossLady and I get into an argument, she'll joke that maybe I should go run off with one of the 8 million mommy bloggers who read this site. Now, obviously, the lovely BossLady is only kidding but it got me thinking about a few things.
Now, as many of you know, I read a lot of parenting blogs. On the other hand, BossLady doesn't really read blogs very much. Her professional life takes up a lot of time and many times when I'm either writing or reading blogs, she's sitting beside me on the couch and doing work.
It's too bad because I think that she would really enjoy getting to know a lot of you.
However, at the same time, I realized that I don't really know much about the spouses of the bloggers that I read regularly.
Let's face it. The majority of parenting bloggers and commenters are women. You don't often hear much about the husbands. That's why I love it when you do. It gives me a rare glimpse into a part of who all of you are.
For example, I know I would love Liz's husband, Nate. How could I not get along with a comedian who (despite loving the Yankees, the Redskins and cats) not only is a very involved father but also shares my love of Louis CK? Melissa talks about her husband a lot and I've frequently exchanged hilarious sarcastic retorts with him in her comments section. I know I'd like him. Nina's husband, Charlie, is not only an avid baseball fan but is also a fellow Korean-American tech geek. Marsha's husband, Rigel, is an outdoor-loving art director who designs movie posters for a living. He even plays guitar in a band and has jammed at BB Kings Blues Club. Kristen's husband, John, is admittedly a shitty neighbor but I think he's a very cool and down-to-earth guy who also happens to be an amazing photographer. Penny's husband shares my love of practical jokes and has pulled some shit that has had me in tears. I love hearing about the spouses of some of my favorite bloggers.
But as I was thinking about all of this, it got me wondering...
Why is it rare that so few bloggers seem to write about their spouses?
Are some of your spouses even aware that you have a blog?
Do your spouses know about the blogs that you visit regularly?
Do they know about your blog friends or do you keep it a secret?
Do they know that some of these blogs are written by members of the opposite sex?
Would they care at all about it if they did know?
Personally, I'm always talking to BossLady about my blog friends. She doesn't know ALL of the blogs I visit because I just don't mention all of them to her. This isn't a sin of omission. It's just that I tend to talk about things happening to my blog friends in the same way that I tend to talk about things happening to my "real-life" friends.
But what about all of you? How do you guys feel about all of this?
An inquiring mind wants to know...