When I first started this blog, I thought it would be the web-based equivalent of talking to myself. I thought it would be a therapeutic way for me to chronicle my transition into fatherhood. How was I going to adjust from being a care-free guy who loved living a life of spontaneity to becoming a dependable father whose sole responsibility would be to care, nurture and love his infant daughter? Was my entire personality and inner essence going to be inalterably transformed? Could I really give up the velvet rope for the velvet slipper? Was my life going to revolve around the sippy cup?
But I also started this blog to try and find a community of like-minded fathers who were bent on being great parents but who didn't take themselves too seriously. I wasn't looking for guys who were "too cool for school" and just happened to have become fathers. No, I was seeking out guys who were taking fatherhood as seriously as me, who always knew they wanted to be fathers and who also knew that humor and a good attitude were valuable tools of the trade.
And I found these cool dads. I also found a bunch of cool moms. And surprisingly, I found a bunch of cool people who are neither moms or dads. And throughout all of this, a funny thing happened...
I fell in love.
(Ok, maybe Love is a tad strong. I just thought it would be a nice dramatic literary effect. Don't worry. I'm not the drunk party girl who swears she loves you, vomits in your living room and then passes out at your front door. You know what I'm talking about, right?)
Anyway, in all seriousness, I really did kind of fall in love...with all the readers of this blog who comment and lead me to their own blogs. I truly consider blogging buddies to be friends. I'm invested in their lives. I care what happens to them. When shit goes bad for one of them, I find myself worrying like a mother hen.
It's funny because the BossLady doesn't read very many blogs. She basically reads mine and Greg's. So, in a way, it's like I've made all these friends without her. And often, I find myself talking to her about one of my blog friends as if they're either friends from work, friends from distant places or friends I made when I was younger...
"Did I tell you that Dutch & Wood are moving from SF to Detroit? Dutch told me that they can get a mansion there for almost nothing!"
"Speaking of SF, I wonder if RBrown has found a place to live yet. Do we know anyone there who could hook her up with a pad? What do you think about setting her up with one of the SF boys? By the way, did I tell you her tampon story?"
"Remember that conversation we had about how crappy parents sometimes make the best grandparents? MIM just wrote about that on her blog."
"Hey, honey. What do you think about just getting an Ikea kitchen? Stephania and her husband are installing all the cabinetry from Ikea and investing in great appliances."
"Remember I told you about Tony? Anyway, he gave me some great networking resources to think about for potential new jobs. I think we're going to grab a scotch together one of these days and have a little bitch session together."
See what I'm talking about?
Maybe I'm overthinking it all. Maybe we're all just a bunch of voyeuristic turds who are fascinated by the daily transactions of other people's lives. But I feel like it's more than that. And though I can't quite put my finger on it, I'm sure someone much smarter than me will be able to. Because I think the friendships forged over the blogosphere are real. And I'm pretty sure if I met most of my blog buddies in the "real world", we'd get along fabulously.
I bring this all up because I'm breaking through the 4th Wall for the first time and will soon be meeting up with two of my favorite blog friends, Jay and Kim. They're two of the first people that I ever met online via blogging and I'm looking forward to meeting them. I couldn't picture two people I'd rather lose my virginity with more. I know everybody else meets up with blog friends all the time. I've just never done it before. That's all. Will it hurt? Just kidding. It actually just made me think of how the internet has changed the social dynamics of society and how we interact with one another. I mean, I knew it was good for porn and online shopping. But for making new friends? Who would have thunk it?
Anyway, let's turn the mic over to you. What do you think about forged friendships via blogging? How do you think blogging has changed the way we interact with one another? How do you feel about blogging in general? How do you feel about the people whose blogs you read? Throw anything out there.
Let's see if we can figure this shit out.